CSI wannabe

a gal fren recently got involved with a guy in a really complicated situation. He is going thru' divorce but is currently attached to another girl. the catch here is that, both these other women are not in the same country as the guy and only my precious fren is.

she calls me (yes 1/2 way across the globe) every other day to share her woes and joy. i am most willing to lend her an listening ear (or a virtual shoulder). even though she asks for advice, i know it makes no difference whatever i say.

seriously, what can another person say? i told her this morning that in order to be fair to herself, she should let go. but i qualified saying that i know it is difficult - i should know better, this letting go business. and i can say this because i am not emotionally entrenched. but for someone who is so emotionally involved, it doesn't happen with a flick of a switch.

finally, i told her, it is like virus attack. she just have to go thru' the ordeal and it will come to a point in time that she will get everything fix - in the best possible way, at the most appropriate time. just like our body finally builds up the immue system to chase the virus away. then we become healthy again. but yes, it takes time (who knows how long) and some form of discomfort.

for her, the only thing anyone can do (really, cut the crap in telling her to give up) is to offer her the support she needs - listen to her, talk to her, cry with her (if need) so that she knows she is not alone. for me, i have taken her calls at the weirdest time of the day, while in class or during a movie. but i guess that's the only thing i can do, since being so far away.